Suggest Something
to Do That Means Something Special To Your Partner
If you know how
your partner feels about things then you can use those things to convey how you
feel about your partner.
Every one of us
associates words and memories with emotions. Good word and good memories
correspond to good emotions – it’s as simple as that.
Good emotions around or towards our partners can make us feel more
attracted or connected to our partner, so if you are the one making your
partner feel good then you can bet your partner will feel good towards you as
well.
If your partner associates the beach with the happiest moment of their
life, and you suggest going to the beach, then they are going to feel good
about you. Their happiness will instantly come to life when you mention the
beach and that emotion will pass on to how they feel about you. See how that
works?
Task: What is special
to your partner? What makes them giddy and excited and feel good? If
they like watching a certain TV show then suggest that you watch it. Even if
it’s something as simple as going to bed and cuddling before your fall asleep
may be enough to make your partner feel good about you. Just make sure it’s
THEIR favorite thing and not yours.
Say Something to
Your Partner That They REALLY Want To Hear
There are many times in a relationship when we
don’t compliment or praise our partner when we should. We may avoid doing it
because of our ego or pride, or we may avoid doing it because we are feeling
selfish.
You’ve probably done this.
It’s when your
partner is proud of something in their lives and is fishing for a positive
statement from you but all you give them is a look, or worse – you say
something negative instead of positive.
For example,
maybe you went bowling and they bowled a perfect game and you were pissed off
that you lost so instead of making them feel good you tried to make them feel
bad for winning. How does this help your relationship?
It doesn’t.
When you withhold
compliments or praise because of your ego or pride then you are missing an opportunity
to really make your partner feel good about themselves and about you. You can
only win from making your partner feel good.
Task: The next time you see an opportunity
today to make them feel good, take it, even if it means making them look
better than you in some way. Don’t pass by the opportunity to make them feel
good and bring your relationship closer because of your pride or ego.
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